Leadership Trumps Loss

They say, “When Mama dies, it’s all over.” I personally experience this wherein my mother did recently succumb to cancer and life, as I knew it, is all over. However, this is not all bad. There pulsed a distinct antagonism and competitive combative interplay with everything about my mother that now lies at rest quite peacefully. The tension releases from my system like taking that deep inhale and exhale when on the line, waiting for the target to turn. I now preside as head female over our family group: my dad, my grown children, my siblings, my nephews. As the leader, or team captain, I take my position very seriously, very lovingly, checking in on Pops and the gang regularly. I travel often to my SoCal Homeland not just to help go through Mother’s personal effects, but also to BE there. Leadership is not simply what I feel like doing or what I am in the mood for, it is doing the right thing for the right reason for the good of my group. Currently, one of my nephews prepares for his black belt in karate and he actively seeks extra edged weapons training from me every time I visit. From one position of leadership to the next, I accept this weapons instructional request with great honor. My nephew shows commitment and dedication. He hangs onto my every word. He recites the safety rules, knowing that asking his parents’ permission is Rule #1. He is only 10-years-old. To know that I contribute to the decency of a delinquent, that I help instill competence and confidence and discipline soundly confirms my leadership. I know, now, I have lost nothing with the physical absence of my mom, but that I gain what I give: competence, confidence, discipline. Here’s to Mother and leadership wisely employed.

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"I worked as a Federal Law Enforcement Officer for over 14 years, in a firearms carrying capacity. First assigned to LAX (1994), then to the Los Angeles/ Long Beach Seaport (1997-2007), I took an early retirement from my final duty station of El Paso, TX (2007-2008). Never having handled firearms prior to this job, I give full credit for my initial shooting lessons and safe firearms handling skills to the government. As I began to compete, I gleaned tips and coaching lessons from the best law enforcement instructors across the nation, turning myself into one of the best, too. I was a firearms instructor in Los Angeles and a national level competitor on a formally sponsored team from 1999 through 2003, being sent all over the nation for pistol match competitions. As a result of this gift of an experience, I went on to set five national records in the law enforcement shooting sports. Check in regularly to read about those and other adventures and misadventures!"
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